The key to happiness…

Key to HappinessThe famous age old question, “What is the key to happiness?”, is still pondered by many in our current day. What do I need to do to be happy, have my peace of mind? Those are great questions; apparently with tough answers.

Often, we make the mistake of thinking that we’ll be happy once we get that new job, car, soul mate or big screen TV.

This is a mistake. The material objects won’t make you happy. Other people and situations don’t make you happy. You’re still the same person.

I learned a long time ago that wherever you go, there you are. You can run away from the place you live now, or from people you know or the job you have. You can buy new gizmos, gadgets and toys. You can search out new relationships. But despite all this, you are still the same person.

The key is to be happy wherever you are now. Be happy in every moment of your “regular” day to day life. Now I see a lot of people who aren’t very happy and one of the reasons is that they are living their lives with nothing to look forward to. They get up, go to work, come home then do it again day after day. Maybe they belong to the “thank God it’s Friday” club and party themselves numb for a couple days then start it all over again.

They are like the mouse running on the exercise wheel just doing the same old drudgery day after day. No wonder they are unhappy, burnt out and popping prozac or beers!

I ask people frequently what they have done fun lately and I am always amazed that 90% of the time the answer is “nothing”. To be happy is simply a state of mind; it’s your habit of how you look at things. Yes, just like the old cliché, “is the glass half full or half empty”? It is an old cliché because it is TRUE! The only
way to grow in life and make your dreams come true is to be happy where you are now. It’s about finding joy and being at peace in your present time consciousness. And take it one day at a time.

Okay, easier said than done, but anything worth it in this life takes effort. Here is a simple tool to start you on your way: Always have something to look forward to.

That vacation to Hawaii that’s coming up in 8 months is good, mark it on your calendar and look at it often. But what I really mean is having things to look forward to on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. You could have a date night scheduled in a few weeks or maybe getting together with a friend for a drink to catch up later on this week. Those are great, but don’t forget about the daily, fun events. They don’t have to be gigantic; just schedule things you enjoy. Could be a cup of coffee, a 5 minute meditation, a walk, a bubble bath, taco night, 15 minutes reading a favorite book. You get the idea. The most important are the little daily events that bring you pleasure.

If you start doing this you can start changing the way you think about life. You can start thinking more glass “full” rather than “empty”. Just like learning any new skill, it takes time and repetition, but it’s well worth the effort!

So start filling your days, weeks and months with things big and small you can look forward to and get off that wheel of drudgery. You are no hamster after all! With a calendar filled with fun things, you’ll turn into one happy camper before you know it!

See you at your next adjustment,

Dr. Andrew

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